Happy New Year! Before the chaos of planning your wedding takes over and you suddenly find yourself a bride(or groom)-zilla, set a few resolutions that you can stick with to keep the love, peace and excitement in the process. Here are twelve ideas and suggestions to get you started:
...schedule several "date nights". Before all the details take space in your relationship, take some time together, just the two of you, to spend together and discuss what is most important to each of you in regards to the ceremony and reception.
…create and stick to your budget. Discuss and create a budget that you both can work with. Before making any decisions on wedding purchases, make sure they fit the budget. Very little will stress you out as much as overspending on your wedding. Please don’t begin your marriage out on the wrong foot by going into debt for one day.
...communicate and compromise! Most people don't agree with every single thing their spouse-to-be wants, and you don't have to either. Talk out the differences and find a way to compromise. You have to give a little to get a little, and hey! that's a big part of marriage as well!
...listen to one another. Actively take the time to sit down and truly listen to one another. Just showing the other that you care enough to give them your full attention can diffuse a frustrating situation
…make yourself happy. Be careful that you don’t plan the wedding of your mother’s dreams or your best friend’s dreams rather than your own. If you don’t love everything about the wedding you’re planning, change it.
...trust your team – The whole point behind hiring a wedding planner is to have them help carry some of the burden of getting everything together in time. Same goes for your vendors; unless you can create a beautiful seven tier cake and put together floral arrangements to decorate an entire venue, you need to trust the professionals you’ve hired to do their job. If you’ve hired a true professional, they’ll want to do an amazing job for you. Stop doubting!
…spend at least as much time with your future spouse as you do on your wedding planning. Remember what the big day is all about: your love for each other. Schedule quiet time together where the wedding isn’t among the topics for discussion.
...continue working on your relationship. Too many couples focus on the wedding, and never address the marriage. You are planning to spend the rest of your life with this person. Pray together; join couples workshops; spend time with a couples counselor or another married couple who have weathered some hard times. Ask their advice and ask how they've made it this far. You can never spend too much time on your relationship.
…take the time to savor moments. Weddings and wedding planning can feel overwhelming. Do your best to push beyond that. You’ll be creating lifetime memories during your wedding and even throughout the planning. Don’t miss those special moments along the way.
...see the big picture – It’s far too easy to get lost in the details and become stressed. Before you lose your sanity, remove yourself from the situation, take a walk, and ask yourself why you’re getting so worked up over something so small. At the end of the day, details are unimportant when it comes to the big picture: you’re getting married to the love of your life.
...remember. This wedding is about you and your future spouse! No one else should influence your perfect day. This time, it really is all about you!
…have fun! Wedding planning shouldn’t leave you stressed or miserable. On the contrary, it should be fun! Do what you can to stay organized, keep an eye on that budget, and hire help where you need it.
Do you have other resolutions for the list? Share them with us in the comments!